FINALLY AFTER MORE THAN A YEAR!

I will not review the story, since I believe this book has going through deep exploration of facts from classic sources (hey, it is the best Prophet SAW biography according to National Seerat Conference!). So, here’s the thing I have learned from this book so far:

The family tree of Arabians is very messed up!!
Uncles married to nieces, man married to many women, whose child is he, and so on. It would be nice if there is a detailed family tree for Prophet SAW and his Companions (there is one family tree but only shows from Quraysh to Our Prophet SAW).

I forgot the names as soon as they are mentioned…
Because there are soooo many! Moreover, Arabians have these “kunya” traditions, which is a tradition to call someone based on the name of their children. In fact, it is honorific. Maybe it is like calling Daenerys “mother of dragons”. But, it also makes me confused………

Misleading history
For Indonesian children, it is taught that every women in Prophet’s life has “Siti”. Like Siti Khadijah, Siti Aminah, Siti Aisyah, Siti Fatimah.. But after living in this world for 20+ years, I just realized that it is a big lie! “Siti” is actually something Indonesians (or maybe Melayus.. There are still Siti Nurhaliza, you know) add for some unknown reasons. I have found some silly articles on the Internet made by Indonesians that claims Prophet SAW is from Indonesia because “Siti” is not an Arabic name!!! Crazy, right?? But several people told me that “Siti” is actually from “Sayyidati”, a honorific name like “Lady” in the West. Still, it is unforgivable for me to mislead many people like this.

Noble family
Prophet SAW is from noble family and also charismatic inside out. I don’t know why it is never mentioned in my Islamic lesson but also not surprised by that information. I mean, it is just make sense! No wonder he got many support (and also enemies) by the time of the Revelation of the Quran.

His birth was on many prophecies
He is already waited by many people at that time. And at the end of his life, the Prophet SAW made several sayings that can be considered prophecies, such as the end of the world and Islam condition after his death.

Losing information
Because I read this in English, I might have lost some information here and there. The English used are so advanced (for me) and the translations for the Revelation always use Shakespearian English (thee, thine, thou, etc). But at least I learned a lot new vocabularies!

Well, maybe that’s all. I still need to do some small “research” to confirm the history I have got from this book. Overall, anyone who is interested in Prophet Muhammad SAW’s life should read this very detailed book.

xoxo

N

This very late post is about a project for Dea’s 22nd birthday on December 2013. Hahahaha. I know it is supeeeeeeeeeer late!! As usual, we discussed what to give for each other birthday and because Dea loves postcards, postcards it is! But of course, our postcards will not be ordinary. It will be from us, sent from Photoshopland from different places on Earth!

So each of us went to our dream places, took photos, and make a postcard out of it! These are our postcards, from the west to the east, started from Vienna, Amsterdam, Paris, Madrid, Venice, Santorini, Moscow, Madinah, and Tokyo, we have come to Dea’s house to say “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!”.

tifagitariza

agast

bobi

aing

sasrikartu-madinah

karinAt first I am afraid that the project will be failed or something but it turns out really good! Someday we all visit those cities, okay?! And not only on Photoshopland hahahah.

xoxo

N

Ia tidak termasuk kedalam stereotipe ibu yang kerap muncul:ibu yang keras dan disiplin terhadap anaknya, ibu yang lembut dan selalu ada, ataupun ibu wanita karir yang tidak lalai untuk mendidik putra-putrinya.

Ibu adalah wanita biasa. Wanita biasa yang dingin. Bahkan, ayah juga mengakui hal tersebut.

Ia dingin dalam mengekspresikan dirinya. Ia selalu tampil seperti tidak punya keinginan, yang selalu membuatnya tampil sederhana, karena selalu mendahulukan kepentingan anak-anaknya dibandingkan dirinya sendiri.

Ia dingin dengan jarang mengekspresikan kasih sayangnya–jika ada. Becanda. Tentu saja ada. Besar sekali. Namun kasih sayangnya itu ditunjukkan dengan cara selain pelukan dan ciuman.

Ia sangat dingin ketika kecewa: ia diam. Diamnya itu adalah salah satu siksaan dunia bagi yang pernah merasakannya.

Ia dingin, yang dibuktikan dengan dirinya mengatakan “lebay ah” ketika membaca tulisan ini.

Namun di balik topeng dinginnya, ia adalah wanita sangat logis dengan sisi perasanya tersendiri. Sebagai seorang lulusan farmasi, ia selalu tahu pertolongan pertama apa yang dibutuhkan jika ada yang terluka. Jika ditanya mengenai obat-obatan, maka ocehan semacam “jadi thrombopop mengandung zat X yang akan membantu darah supaya Y sehingga akan membuat efek Z” akan keluar dengan lancar yang biasanya disambut cengiran anak-anaknya yang mengatakan “Ibu sok ilmiah”. Namun di saat bersamaan, ia dapat menangis tersedu-sedu hanya karena tidak tega melihat video bayi yang dijahili oleh orangtuanya yang memberikan lemon langsung ke lidah bayi itu. Itu jahat sekali!, katanya sementara yang lain menganggap video itu lucu.

Di balik topengnya, ia adalah wanita yang rela meninggalkan pekerjaannya sebagai apoteker sebagai salah satu usahanya untuk menjadi seorang ibu. Berat, apalagi saat itu karirnya sedang berjalan dengan baik. Apalagi, ia sempat kehilangan salah satu anaknya: kakak laki-lakiku yang pergi sebelum aku lahir. Walau begitu, ia selalu mendidik anak-anaknya untuk mandiri. Wanita jangan bergantung kepada laki-laki, banyak wanita luar biasa yang bisa bekerja dan mengasuh anak dengan baik, katanya. Well, women are naturally born as multi-taskers, anyway. Tidak, itu bukan berarti hubungan ibu dan ayah buruk. Tahun 2014 kemarin usia pernikahan mereka sudah mencapai 28 tahun.

Selain itu, ia adalah perencana keuangan yang sangat hebat untuk sebuah keluarga kelas menengah yang selalu terkena dampak langsung dari kenaikan harga BBM. Dengan sentuhan tangan magisnya, anak-anaknya bisa bersekolah di sekolah yang baik. Pendidikan selalu menjadi prioritas dan dan selalu ada makanan terhidang setiap malam. Alhamdulillah.

Topeng dinginnya membuat ia seperti tak punya keinginan untuk membeli hal-hal yang tidak diperlukan dan hal tersebut membuatnya selalu tampil sederhana, make up biasa, dan tampil sesuai dengan keperluan. Di saat wanita-wanita lain membutuhkan biaya sekian juta untuk menjaga penampilan yang jadinya terlihat tidak alami, ibu saya bertahan dengan kesederhanaannya, yang kadang disyukuri oleh ayah. Untung ibu tidak suka dandan, kata ayah becanda, jadi uangnya bisa dipakai yang lain.

Di balik topengnya juga, ia adalah wanita biasa yang dapat terlihat insecure dengan warna kulitnya yang tidak putih, yang sebetulnya merupakan propaganda sukses dari iklan pemutih kulit yang sebetulnya tidak memutihkan. Ia selalu bertanya, “Apa warna ini cocok dengan kulit Ibu?”. Dia tidak pernah tahu bahwa warna-warna pilihannya selalu cantik dan cocok untuknya.

Sedingin apapun ia, ia adalah ibuku, satu-satunya wanita yang memberikan segalanya untuk “bertemu” diriku, satu-satunya figur ibu, dan wanita paling cantik di semestaku. Ia bukan orang yang sempurna, tapi hanya ia orang yang boleh memanggilku “Keledun”, yang kupikir adalah permainan kata dari “kedul” (pemalas, Bahasa Sunda) namun ternyata memang panggilan spesial untuk diriku dan yang kubalas dengan memanggilnya “Mumun”. Ia adalah satu-satunya wanita yang setiap memikirkannya selalu memunculkan rasa ingin memeluk dirinya hingga sesak nafas.

Beberapa orang berani mengklaim bahwa ibunya adalah yang terbaik di dunia. Pernyataan yang sesungguhnya membingungkan: berapa ibu yang telah mereka coba sehingga keluar pernyataan tersebut? Tidak, aku tidak akan pernah mengatakan hal itu.

Bukan, ia bukan ibu terbaik di dunia; namun, jelas ia adalah wanita terbaik di dunia yang dikirimkan untuk mengatasi beberapa masalah di dunia ini: aku dan adikku, kedua anak perempuannya. Oh, juga pembuat sup krim terbaik di semestaku.

Love you always, Mum.
N.
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Well, this is embarrassing. For the first time in my life I use other people’s works for my social media personalization like header, icons, etc (except those profile pictures. I am really not great at taking picture of myself and when I found one that I like it is usually just a piece from many bad pictures). And by “other people” is those ones I took from Deco app. Hahaha.

But this is something big that I must change all those kites into something else. It is still my masterpiece until 4 years later, but it is time to change for greater good. It is time to make new “masterpiece”, maybe with rain theme, my favorite weather ever after those more than 1500 days of summer. Not really that “summer”, but nobody needs unnecessary details.

Also, my current favorite kanji/chinese character: 雨 (rain) and 傘 (umbrella). Because, hey, they look a lot like what they mean, right?

xoxo

N

Love & MisadventureLove & Misadventure by Lang Leav

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Poetry is never my cup of tea, but I didn’t regret my curiosity when I give this book a try since I read Naila’s review. Love and Misadventure is a collection of poems which I surprisingly love! Almost every page is bookmarked because they captures what is on my mind beautifully. It’s like Miss Leav has a Legilimency ability to my thoughts lol.

My current favorite:

A Timeline

You and I
against a rule,
set for us by time.

A marker drawn
to show our end,
etched into its line.

The briefest moment
shared with you—
the longest
on my mind.

xoxo

N

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..I always think “who the hell will read this thing?”, “does anyone really cares about what I think?”, “my writing is so bad”, “I believe I will find a mistake after I push this button”, “This is not inspiring at all”, “I must have made a grammatical error, but I do not care anymore” or “I hope no one reads this”.

But then I realize. Who do I want to impress? Why do I write? Why do I must write?

Those are just another questions I have to answer myself.

xoxo

N

These latest months was more inspiring to me than many previous months combined. I went to Jakarta almost every week to do my first focus group discussions–which is weird, I have thought that my first FGD would be on my job-seeking time—with great designers, interview great people, and taste the first sip of working with government people. Well, my current job is to write a blueprint of creative industry in Indonesia, focusing on sub sector of design. That is why I have met many great designers and inspired by them all.

The interviews went well, the discussions widen my mind, and the job is challenging enough that I made it into an article in IndonesiaKreatif (here is the link!). Studying systems at my undergraduate program made me realize that the government is not integrated enough to make Indonesia more progressive than it is now (haha very personal opinion).

BUT.

That was not the most important thing I got from these months. It is what I got from many interviews with several entrepreneur in design area. I have interviewed both the start-up and the well-experienced ones. To me, being an entrepreneur is still the best way to seek wealth and be useful to the community at the same time. Most of them are brave, smart, and idealist. They want to give more impact to the community around them, and they did it! Making money is not their first priority, but the money always follows their effort. So much difference than most people I meet now.

They do not worry about money, which is a thing I can not do right now (lol). But you know, as I have said before, the money is “there” and they always get it. One of them, Mr Agus W, told me his experience. He is an entrepreneur and a lecturer in Surabaya.

The first time I start my business, I divided my time to 30% social things and 70% for making money. Then I changed my pattern to 60% social and 40% money (I forgot the numbers, but you get the point-N), and get more (money) than before!

Whoa. That reminds me to a quote I still remember today.

If we plant the rice plant (paddy), grass will grow by itself. But not vice versa. That means, we should do the most important ones first, the rest will follow.

– Mr Burhanudin Azis, a mentor, 2013.

Yeah, we should do the most important ones first: being good to other people and be useful to community (at least to me). In Islamic context, it is “putting Allah first“–but I try to translate it to everyday language. Well it is just me being in an ideal world. In reality, I’m still that lazy student struggling to fight her laziness. I hope this writing remind me if someday I go to the wrong path.

In order to get, you must give. I should have given more, for I have been given too many.

N, still wanting to travel around the world.